Oi... BJD Confessions.

~Anonymous" Anon... so classy.

[It goes on to say some other things grouping myself into a general category of sheep, blindly following my "idol" just for the sake of them being popular.]


I just want to say that I try really hard to stay non-bias and open minded when it comes to issues in the BJD Community. I've not always been so good at it... but I do try. BUT~ My name is on something so here I go. Ha...

People. I get it. You've got friends in this hobby that you hold dear - you want to jump to their aid when you feel they are threatened. That's cool. That's what your friends are for.
BUT
Don't just assume and make accusations just to try to justify your friends side of the story or place blame because you need a target for those feels we call emotions.

I'm really not upset over this - it's more of a community lesson and me trying to clarify for anyone worried that I jump on bandwagons.
The original poster wants to assume that I am backing Pindakees and that I think they are justified in their actions.

My comment was...

"I can't fully take your side as I'm not involved - but I will fully agree with you that it should have all been kept in PMs and efforts should have been made to made contact with you via a site that is easier to communicate for both parties."

I'm sorry...
At what point was I saying that I'm backing them? The only statement in the entire comment is that I agree with things being kept private. Which is someone we should all strive to do - going public doesn't help your cause - it just gets you attention (or when your fighting Anons).

My second comment...

"Blah, it's not your fault at all... finding buyers can be a long and annoying process, so when you finally find one I don't blame ANYONE for wanting to sell to them. Just stinks it wasn't a smoother transaction and it ended up so bad. "

Now this, I can see being taken the wrong way. Especially if Anon was far too lazy to actually read what they were posting about. Here, I was told that Pindakees basically jumped to sell really fast without much thought on who they were selling to. That's all this comment was about. Jumping to sell quick has nothing against the buyer in this entire situation so I'm not sure how they found this offensive... (Probably TLDR) - Overall I'd send that message to ANYONE. Selling a doll can be such a bitch.

My original contact with Pindakees wasn't to take sides (No offense but it's not my fight) and it's not to take sides with whoever else this originally involves. Because really - it's not my fight and I don't care.
 My intent for posting on Pindakees journal was only to support someone having a hard time in the community in a non-bias way. My post was basically "Dang that sucks - hey we all have bad days hope it gets better" not "Omg you poor baby let me defend you because the other person is obviously wrong."

 Don't act like you've never seen it - the community can be really hard at times, sometimes having that friendly comment can go a long way. It's an odd hobby, I'd like to keep people in it - not push them out.


Message to the public: My opinion on the original problem - it's a huge he-said-she-said civil matter. I've no intention or interest in picking sides. I wasn't part of the e-mail nor was I of the transaction. I don't mind lending an ear to anyone in need (your best thing is to get someone non-bias so props for anyone that does that) but I rarely take sides in fights online or in real life. #truth

Message to Anon:

Two things:
First - I get you're upset for your friend - that's cool of you to kinda-support them (as much as a nameless entity can)... however
your confession was filled with a lot of name-calling and one-sided opinions. I get that Pindakees isn't your favorite person, but that doesn't justify throwing around rude comments and generally attacking her. Pindakees  I'm really sorry for Anon's name-calling - that I WILL back you and anyone else in this situation 100% - shouldn't have happened. Fackin' Rude!
Second - If you're going to post things that include my name I'd first like you to get your facts straight. Don't just go throwing me around acting like you know my opinions and grouping me into a set of people that I have no part of. I'm fine with you posting your views that might not line up with mine, you're entitled to it but make sure you are getting accurate information when posting about me. If you have any further questions feel free to send me a message so I can enlighten you on anything you might need.


And to Pindakees and the other person - I'm sorry this entire event has spread into public posts - hopefully it will die down.

Sorry for the long post - please use this as a reminder to treat a fight with an open mind. The hobby has this toxic side - try not to feed into it!


-s-


^{YouTube Twitter Flickr Tumblr facebook Instagram Steam}

P.S. I'm not the best at expressing my opinions with words nor am I an English major (Thank you for spellcheck), so if some of this was hard to follow I'm sorry.